One of the best things about having this site is the ability to meet really special people.
Today’s post was written by Rachel Martin of FindingJoy.net
Once I decided to focus a bit on the kindness of people, I knew that Rachel was someone I wanted to share with you.
She touches my heart. I hope she touches yours, too.
A couple years ago during a very challenging financial time in my life when my cupboards were almost bare there was a knock at my door and sitting outside on my front step were four bags of groceries. I wept.
A couple months ago in a Fedex in Colorado a friend of mine paid for the resume copies for another patron. This stranger thanked us over and over and over for a gift that was under a couple of dollars. Then the manager at the store said he’d like to pay for it because he was blessed by our kindness.
A couple weeks ago I went through the drivethru line at Starbucks and when I pulled up to pay the barista told me that the car in front of me paid for my favorite grande caramel macchiato. As the car pulled away I was humbled by the gesture. So I paid for the car behind and slowly pulled away watching the barista tell them there $7.86 worth of hot coffee was gifted to them. By a stranger.
A couple days ago I opened up my facebook messenger and there was a sweet note from a friend out of the blue telling me that she was thinking of me and that she was proud of me. I was blessed.
A couple hours ago one of my children came up the stairs, looked me in my very tired mom face, and told me I was the best mom ever. That was on a day where I felt like I was the worst mom ever. I wept. Again.
These things matter.
Some of them – like the groceries – are an investment, a larger sum of money, given to others in need. And then others, others like the resume copies in Fedex or the note on facebook really involved very little or no monetary support. But there is a theme – and that theme is the giving of self and the blessing of others without the intent to receive back. It’s a very beautiful thing. It’s a way of looking at life where the paradigm is not simply about self, but is rather with the mindset that this world is more beautiful when we invest in the lives and hearts of others.
And now here we are, in the midst of the frenetic season also known as the holidays, and the thing that we’re talking about today is kindness. I want to challenge you to look at kindness through a different lens – it’s a lens about blessing others, slowing down for others, and giving of just a bit of self for someone else. On my site, Finding Joy, I celebrate the little things in life. Those little things can be hugs from our kids, a latte at noon, sitting in the doctor’s office with a friend, notes sent in the mail, a hug for the mom whose kids are crazy at preschool, or well, honestly, kindness and all of those moments are really limitless opportunities in life for each of us to give to others. They really are the moments, the little things that matter, that in our lives will get woven together to create our own unique and beautiful story. They are the things that when we reach the end of our days that we sit at the table and share with others with words of remember when and I couldn’t believe and I was so grateful as tears fill our remembering eyes.
So during the holidays how do we celebrate those little things and work on kindness? Honestly, it’s often an exercise in slowing down, in patience, in being loving even when you are late and want to race to the next thing, in being empathetic, in seeing the world outside of the lens of self, and really, in remembering that others matter. So look at the cashier at Target or Walmart or Trader Joe’s or Costco or wherever in the eyes and be grateful for them working there even if the prices get screwed up or if things are bagged in a way you don’t like or if you just spent 18 minutes in line. Getting things perfect or racing to the next thing at the expense of others is simply not worth it in the broad story of life.
I’m telling you – treat others with respect and love – or as I tell my children treat others how you would want to be treated. So say thank you and I appreciate you and smile and exercise grace. You simply do not know the story of others and honestly, the impact kindness makes on someone’s life ripples more than we sometimes know. Give back. Buy groceries for others if you can. Tell those you love that you love them. Write a friend a message. Watch their kids. Be there for others.
Being kind is the ultimate frugal gift that we can give and yet it is really a priceless gift.
Think back to your own story? What moments made impacts? Where were times where you were humbled by the kindness of others? That’s the ripple.
It may be frugal, but it’s one of the greatest gifts one can give.
Rachel Martin is the writer behind the FindingJoy.net a website focused on intentional living and seeking the joy in motherhood.
She has learned the value of living a life loving the little things – the moments – tucked in the fabric of the everyday. And in that is a quest to live joyfully and fully. Now. In this moment. No more waiting for things to get better, no lamenting the time lost, but rather finding joy in everyday – even when the everyday doesn’t look perfect. It’s in choosing to life today to it’s fullest, being thankful, and above all grateful. Gratitude is a choice and is something one must learn. And so on this site it’s a celebration of the little things, the moments in life, that matter.
Rachel is the author behind the successful “Dear Mom Letters” Ebook and is currently working to complete several other hard cover books based on the success of her site.
It seems that we are getting bombarded with commercial messages about the Holidays these days. It starts with all the “Black Friday” deals and continues on through Christmas with last minute shopping deals. It’s not an easy time to stay frugal, especially here in the US. I’ll do my best to help you stay on budget with tips and ideas for a frugal Christmas over the coming weeks.
Today though, I want to talk about something we should never be frugal about – Kindness to Others. It’s really what Christmas is all about and it doesn’t have to cost a dime.
Random Acts Of Kindness
I love the idea of random acts of kindness and while it’s wonderful to be able to do some monetary ones (like paying for someone’s groceries for example), you don’t have to spend any cash on them. A random act of kindness can be as simple as opening the door for someone or letting them get in line in front of you at the grocery store. Or it can be as involved as going over to someone’s house to clean it for them. As you go about your day, keep your eyes open for kindness opportunities. Spend a few minutes chatting with a lonely neighbor. Volunteer at the soup kitchen or animal shelter. Bring someone’s paper or mail to their door, or shovel snow for them. I’m sure once you start being more aware, you’ll find all sorts of ways to be kind to others. And don’t forget to pass it on to your kids as well…
Kindness In The Kitchen
We all love to cook and bake around here… why not take advantage of this to show some kindness from the kitchen. If you’re making a big pot of soup for dinner this week, take some of it to a bachelor friend who probably hasn’t had a home-cooked meal since Thanksgiving. If you’re baking cookies, fix a plate of them and share them with the neighbors. If you hear about a food drive, look through your pantry and share some canned goods or mixes. None of this will cost you much but is a wonderful way to show some kindness to others.
Spend Your Time
While spending money on loved ones isn’t always an option, you can generously spend your time. Often it’s a much more meaningful gift than anything you can buy. I’ve been spending a lot of time lately teaching my daughter to knit and we’re both having a blast.
Think about who you could spend some time with over the coming weeks. Maybe it is inviting some friends over for coffee or tea and some chatting. Maybe it’s taking an elderly neighbor out to help with Christmas shopping. Or how about winterizing someone’s yard for them. Put on your thinking cap and find a few extra hours this week to show someone kindness.
Useful Gifts That Won’t Cost You A Dime
Look through your house. I’m sure you can find all sorts of things you no longer need from outgrown clothing to school supplies that the kids didn’t use and more. Find a few things that someone else in your life could use. Stick them in the box and take them over there. If you don’t know anyone personally, find a local shelter or charity that can get those items into the hands of a family that needs them.
The turkey has been cooked and carved, everyone had too much food and the leftovers have been packed away. The big question now is what to do with them. Of course there’s the traditional turkey sandwich, but there’s so much more you can do with your Holiday leftovers.
Since I spent a lot of time and money on cooking a turkey with all the fixings, I want to get as many meals as possible out of my leftovers. If you are looking for some tips and some new recipes to try, download the Holiday Leftover report below.
Holiday Leftover Magic (pdf)
I hope you and your family had a wonderful Thanksgiving and are ready to move into the rest of the Holiday Season.
Fall winds blow and leaves make their decent from tree limbs. It is the perfect time for fun autumn activities for kids. Here are some ways to have fun with your kids this fall:
Create an Autumn Yard Collage
This is a great way to get your kids involved in beautifying your front lawn for the fall season. Materials you will need to create your autumn yard collage include hay bales, pumpkins (all sizes), scarecrows, witches, cornucopias, etc. Anything related to fall will look wonderful. Stack your hay bales to create a backdrop. Next, place a huge scarecrow (or witch) on the center of the stack. Then add other complimentary fall accessories like cornucopias, corn stacks, ghosts, etc.
Make a Haunted Tree
Making a haunted tree is a fun activity for everyone. It is especially great to do right after raking leaves. First, pick the biggest, best tree in your front yard; preferably one with many long, crooked limbs. Next, take small white trash bags and stuff the top half with leaves from your yard. Twist and tie the bag into a knot, or use a twist-tie to close the end where the leaves stop. Turn upside down and you have a ghost! Make as many of these ghosts as you can, then tie them to tree limbs. As the fall winds blow, your ghosts will haunt your tree.
Happy Autumn Cards
Supply each child with markers, paper, glue, glitter, stickers, etc. Let them make several autumn cards and write a special message on the inside of each one. After any wet appliqués are dried, gather the cards and take them to your local nursing home to distribute among patients.
There are so many different types of apples, it makes it hard to choose. If you’re at the store, the farmers market or picking your own apples at an orchard, it’s good to have a basic idea of what apple works well for what. Not every kind is good for eating plain or baking into a pie. The list below has some of the most commonly found apples in the US. It is by no means an extensive list, but a great place to start.
This is a great baking apple with bright red skin and juice white flesh. They are slightly tart and don’t tend to discolor too quickly. Great addition to pies and cobblers.
These are large apples with a yellow-green skin. They are juicy and crisp with a sweet flavor that lends itself to baking and making apple sauce.
Empire apples are a cross between McIntosh and Red Delicious. This is a great apple that works for just about anything including baking. They are also delicious for slicing and eating and even freeze well.
Glala apples are one of my favorite eating apples. They also make great apple sauce. I don’t recommend using them in baking. They tend to fall apart very quickly. They have a yellow skin with red striping.
If you are only going to keep one type of apple around, make it golden delicious. They have a mild but sweet flavor that tastes great if the apple is eaten fresh or baked. These apples also keep their shape well during baking, making them perfect for pies.
This is one of the most popular apples around and for good reason. They are bright green and have a nice sour flavor. They are perfect for eating raw and hold up well in pies and crisps. I recommend combining them with some other apples (like golden delicious) for baking pies.
This is a fairly new apple variety that’s crisp and juicy. I love the honey-sweet flavor and use them quite a bit in pies and apple sauce.
This is a very old apple variety. Ida Reds keep their shape during baking and even freeze well. I use them for baking and in apple sauce.
These apples are a blend of Jonathan and Golden Delicious apples. They are best eaten fresh or used in apple sauce.
These apples are perfect for baking pies and cakes. They hold their shape well and have a nice crisp flavor. They don’t tend to be very sweet so adjust sugar as needed in baking.
I have a bit of a hard time finding these apples at the grocery store. They are best eaten raw and have a pretty white flesh that pairs very well with sharp cheeses.
My favorite way to eat a good McIntosh apple is right from the tree. Since they break up easily when cooked, they are perfect for apple sauces but won’t hold up in a cake or pie.
Don’t try to cook or bake with these. They are meant for eating as is.
This is a firm but sweet apple that holds up well in baking and makes a great addition to your apple sauce as well.
Living frugally isn’t always easy. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you that. The key to living a frugal live is to not feel like you’re depriving yourself all the time. Instead it’s about figuring out ways to get what you need and want without spending a lot. My friend Carrie is a master at this. She’s a homeschooling mom with 7 kids who enjoys life on a budget. Today I’d like to share a guest post by her with you. Enjoy!
How I Spent $2.50 And Ditched My Starbucks Habit
In his classic personal finance book The Richest Man in Babylon, author George Clason tells the reader that “…like a bright light in a dark cave, thy budget shows up the leaks from thy purse.” After tracking my spending for months, I had to face an uncomfortable truth. Purse – I found thy leak. And her name is Starbucks.
Frugality isn’t about denying oneself all pleasures. Rather, it’s about using resourcefulness and creativity to get the things you need (and want), for less. Enjoying good coffee is one of the pleasures I’m not willing to forego, but I was spending far too much money on this line item in my budget. So I decided to do something about it. I learned to make awesome cafe au lait at home.
The trick? I bought a milk frother. It doesn’t look like much. It’s a small tool that looks roughly like a teeny tiny egg beater, with a battery attached. But it makes a beautiful head of foam on your steamed milk, which poured over double-strength coffee, makes an absolutely delicious, hot creamy cafe au lait (you can also use it to froth milk to top espresso for – voila! – cappuccino).
You can buy a milk frothing wand for about $2.50. I got mine at IKEA. And here’s a tip: warm your milk on the stove until it’s at hot as you want first, then froth it. That gives it a better, thicker foam. Here’s the kicker: I love my homemade cafe au lait better than what I get at a coffee shop. It’s hotter, a fraction of the price, and I like the taste more because I’m drinking it at home, with a mug instead of a paper and plastic cup, and usually with a book in hand. Sometimes I even drink cafe au lait while I practice my French (with the help of the free DuoLingo software, of course). Elle boit café au lait et parle français. Ooh la la!
What are some ways you can save money without reducing your enjoyment of life? One way might be to first discover areas in which you’re currently spending more than you’re comfortable with. Ask yourself if that spending is really in alignment with your personal goals and ideals. If not, what changes can you make? Really use your noodle. You might find that the frugal choice is actually preferable!
Carrie Willard is the author of the ebook Slash Your Grocery Budget and Eat a Whole Foods Diet with ALDI. She is also a wife, mom of 7, homeschooler, and blogger. Catch her sharing frugal tips and other aspects of large family living at http://www.NaturalMomsTalkRadio.com/blog
If you’re new to shopping at Aldi or just want some ideas for cooking entire weeks worth of food with what you’re finding there, grab this book by my friend Carrie. I can highly recommend it.
Shopping for school clothes can take a bite out of your pocket book if you’re not careful. For many parents, the very mention of the words ‘shopping for school clothes’ can bring on a headache. Buying new school shoes, backpacks, clothes and all the other necessities needed to dress your child for school can be overwhelming and expensive.
The good news is, you can get your children dressed and ready to go back to school without going into debt, while still keeping your kids happy. I’ve laid out my 5 best tips for you to stay within your budget when it comes to back to school shopping.
What’s in the Closet?
Don’t even think about shopping for school clothes until you’ve discovered what’s already in your child’s closet. This is something many parents don’t do when it comes to school shopping but if you assess what your child has that is school ready you can reuse, recycle and save money. Dig into your child’s closet first before you even think about shopping. Get everything out of that closet and start sorting. You’ll be surprised at the good stuff you forgot they even had that’s been buried in the back of the closet and stuffed into dresser drawers. Sort through every piece of clothing, remove anything that doesn’t fit, and set everything else aside. Now you have an idea of what clothing your child already has. Get it all washed, folded and hung in the closet. Now that you know what your child has you can move to the next step.
Create a Budget
Now that you know what your child has for clothing, it’s time to think about what is needed. One of the biggest mistakes people make about school shopping is not setting a budget. So, before you let your child get too excited about a whole new wardrobe, you’ll need to create a budget. Living within your means is one of the most important responsibilities you can teach your child. Remind your child that an expensive pair of designer jeans may mean that she only gets one new pair or instead of those fabulous shoes she was eyeing she may have to get a not so fantastic pair. There are trade offs that need to be made. There are choices to be made that fit within the budget and once the money is gone, the shopping is over. This is a tough lesson, but one that needs to be learned before you go on.
Make Your Shopping List
Now that you’ve discussed what the budget is, it’s time to learn how to work within the budget AND get the most out of the the dollars you spend. Start by laying out what is already in the closet. Look through what you have and see how you can mix and match. Toss in some earrings, bracelets and other accessories. Move tops and bottoms around until you have a variety of basics that would benefit from some new pieces. This is where you want to start building your list. Jot down what you have and don’t have, such as what bottoms are unmatched with tops, and vice versa. Be sure to check underclothes and socks too. The idea is to get down on paper what you are shopping for before you get into the store and are swayed by impulse buying.
It’s not as much fun I know, but shopping online can save you money and time. It may be hard to do all your back to school clothes shopping online, but doing whatever you can often benefits both you and your child. Shopping online for clothes can be done in comfort and slowly without pressure. Of course, you can’t try the items on so be sure to check the return policies on the websites. This way if it doesn’t fit properly you will be sure you can exchange it for the correct size. Also, be sure to give yourself enough time before school starts to get the exhanges done, if needed. Of course, you can get underwear, socks, backpacks and all sorts of accessories online without too much worry as to whether the stuff will fit. If time is money, then shopping at home on your computer is pure gold. Don’t discount this method as a real bonus.
Shop Off Season
As the seasons change the clothing that hasn’t been sold will get discounted for the new seasons items. This is great for budget shoppers because you could get deeply discounted merchandise that you can use the following season. Watch for cold weather gear like sweaters, gloves, coats, scarves, boots and hats when winter ends the year before. You’ll need them before you know it! Buy way ahead of time and you’ll find great savings on close-outs in the clothing departments. Depending on your child’s age, don’t buy too far ahead because you don’t want any growth spurts to ruin your plan. A winter coat, one size bigger, bought in March for the following winter, at 75% off an already discounted price just makes sense.
Starting a new year of school can punch a big hole in your family’s budget. But, these few tips will help you survive the shopping stress and will save your pocketbook as well as your sanity!
Shopping for school supplies can be nerve wracking to say the least but here are some simple tips to follow to stay sane during the back to school rush. Most schools offer a list of required school supplies that your child will need. If you can get your hands on a copy early enough you can hit the sales, avoid the crowds and save some money too.
Here’s my time and money saving tips for back to school shopping:
Make A Master List
When you have school shopping to do for more than one child and each has a separate list you can simplify by combining all the supplies into one master list for shopping purposes. Tally up the total number of notebooks needed. Do the same for calculators, pencils, rulers, and on down the line until you have every item listed and how many you will need. It’s always easier and usually cheaper to pick up a bundle of items than go back and forth filling each individual child’s list. After you get home, you can divide up the items to give to each child using their own list. This method will save you money since there are always back to school deals on packs of paper, folders, pencils, and other supplies. You can buy a pack of ten folders for less than you can buy a single folder.
Hit The Earlybird Sales
Shop early and often for the best sales. You can get supplies little by little instead of being stressed by fighting the crowds and wrangling kids to buy school supplies the week before school starts. Watch the weekly sales at all the stores in your community and purchase items as they are marked down. Be sure to check with your school (most have websites now) for a list of school supplies needed.
Yes, pencils with fun patterns and glitter pens are cool, but they usually cost a lot more than standard pencils and basic pens. You will save a ton of money buying the essentials rather than trendy styles. Double check your school’s list of supplies as some schools allow only plain colored notebooks, pens, folders, and pencils, anyway.
But, if your child’s school allows for some fun with school supplies, it’s way more practical to buy the plain supplies and dress them up yourself. You can use stickers, paint or markers to decorate your pencils and top them off with a silly eraser top. The same goes for folders and notebooks too. Use your imagination to jazz them up and your child will have a one of a kind! You can usually buy a package of embellishments to share between all the kids for a lot less money than buying decorative supplies.
Buy in Bulk
Buying in bulk saves on just about anything you purchase and school supplies are not different. If you are going to save a bundle on pencils by purchasing 100 of them, then why not do it. You will always need them. Going in with friends, relatives or other parents when buying in bulk can help you all save plus you won’t have to store a ton of supplies.
Big box stores do well for a reason. They buy in mass quantities to offer their customers deep discounts on certain things. Take advantage of this. Purchase a card for yourself or better yet go in together with several friends or other parents to use throughout the year on clothes, school supplies, and whatever else you may need. Membership is usually pretty reasonable, especially if you can share it with a friend. Watch your savings throughout the year and you’ll see the value really adds up fast.
Don’t Forget the Dollar Store
The dollar stores are another amazing place to save money. They’ve become a sensation for a reason. There are certain items that just aren’t worth more than $1 no matter how anyone tries to sell it. Things like paper, notebooks, calculators, pencils, erasers and pens, just shouldn’t take a bite out of anyone’s budget. There’s no reason to spend $3 on a notebook when the very same item is available for $1.
You don’t want to be one of the weary faced parents standing in line at the checkout counter with their arms loaded with school supplies on the day before school starts. And, you won’t if follow these tips to save and have a calm start to school this year!
In last week’s newsletter I shared a yummy recipe from a new online friend – Charlotte Siems. We’ve been emailing back and forth for the past few weeks, getting to know each other better and started chatting about our families and parenting. It turns out that Charlotte, a mom of 12 (yes, you read that right), is quite the expert when it comes to getting your kids to do chores. I asked her to do a little text interview on the topic and she was kind enough to go into quite a bit of detail. I hope you enjoy reading it as much as I’ve enjoyed interviewing Charlotte.
Charlotte, will you tell us a little bit about yourself and why you are so highly qualified to talk about getting kids to do chores.
I have twelve children–ages 7 to 30, six sons and six daughters–and we’ve homeschooled for 26 years. Of course I started out with one little kindergartner and from there we “just growed.” When we first started homeschooling it didn’t take me long to realize that I needed help with the house. At the time my oldest was five so I needed ways to teach her to help, while keeping track of what was already done–without asking each child ten questions. I still have five kids at home (actually six for the summer, as one son is home from college), so we’re still doing the chore thing every day. Our little grandchildren come over often, so I am still dealing with toddler and baby messes, too!
Why is it so important for kids to do chores regularly and what are the benefits besides having some help around the house?
My grown children have actually come back and thanked me for having them do chores, because they were amazed to find that their college classmates didn’t have basic life skills like doing laundry. I think that chores teach children just as much as academic subjects! Busy moms need all the help they can get because it frees them up for the things only they can do. Believe me, moms are not doing their children any favors by doing everything for them. Our children will be adults most of their lives, and it’s an easier transition if they know how to clean the kitchen and scrub the toilet.
What do you think about getting started on getting into a chores routine during the summer months when the kids are home from school?
That is an awesome idea because the whole family will develop a new chore routine before the busy school year begins, rather then trying to adjust to chores AND a new school schedule at the same time.
While raising 12 children I’m sure you’ve come across just about any challenge we can imagine when it comes to children and getting them to do their chores. Can you share one challenge along with a quick idea of what you did to overcome it?
At one point we switched the chore schedule daily until we noticed that everybody was slacking because, hey, they weren’t going to have that chore tomorrow. We changed to a schedule of keeping the same chores for two weeks and that gave immediate relief! We also added extra days on a particular chore for every day that it was done poorly.
I have to admit, I’ve been pretty slack when it comes to making up chores and sticking to them. Any tips for helping us get started?
Keep the image of a tidy house that you didn’t have to clean ever before you when you’re starting out! Keep things simple. I don’t know about you, but complicated systems with stickers and fake money just make me feel overwhelmed. Decide what is “clean enough” and communicate that to your helpers. Boys especially benefit from specific instructions, because I’m convinced that they are missing the clean house genes.
Where can we learn more about you?
I write about home, family, faith and fitness at www.charlottesiems.com.
Charlotte also has a wonderful ebook she’s put together full of hands-on advice and real life examples of getting kids to do their chores. If you’re interested in getting your kids to help out around the house, take a look at http://www.hillbillyhousewife.com/chores
However, she doesn’t just share why you should teach your children to do chores she gives you hope that not only are you getting your house neat & tidy, you’re also teaching your kids responsibility, important life skills and the value of doing a good job as well as facing consequences of not giving your best efforts.
Get a copy of the eBook at http://www.hillbillyhousewife.com/chores
I would like to introduce you to a fairly new friend of mine – Susan Heid from “TheConfidentMom.com”. Susan is a busy mom of four, a fellow Christian, a parenting coach and a Frugali$ta. She blogs about her adventures in Motherhood, running a frugal household and various parenting issues at www.TheConfidentMom.com.
Before we dive in and find out more about what exactly a frugalista is, I would like to share one little paragraph from Susan’s “About” page on her blog. I think it sums up what I love about her perfectly.
“I am passionately committed to helping Christian Moms make small intentional changes managing their home and family giving them more time, less stress and stronger family relationships. Being confident in your role as a mom is key to your family thriving instead of just surviving”.
Susan is launching a new eBook today called “Become a Frugali$ta in 30 Days – Money Saving Secrets for the Frugal Family Manager“and was kind enough to answer a few questions I had. Enjoy the interview below and don’t forget to grab her Frugalista eBook.
1) What Is A Frugalista?
The actual definition is “one who is fashionable while being thrifty” – which I love. Just because you are careful with how and where you spend your money does not mean you have to be “frumpy”, “less than” or not enjoy nice things. I was actually given this nick-name by a good friend several years ago, it stuck and I love it!
2) Why did you choose 30 Days? Is it a good time-frame for forming new frugal habits?
I thought the break-down of 30 days was perfect for allowing a busy mom to read through the book in a realistic way. Often times we can get excited about a new book or topic of interest, and then lose our momentum and not incorporate new habits. This book is broken down into bite size pieces to make it easier to begin making small changes a little at a time instead of thinking you need to complete a BIG over-haul right now. Pick a few of the areas and make some changes and then see how that goes.
3) What’s been your biggest challenge when it comes to staying frugal?
Honestly, it is my own selfish need and desire that I have to fight. Sticking to a budget is hard – and especially so when you first start out. Unless you see the bigger picture and have a goal, it can often seem very restrictive and frustrating. A lot of times I have to say no to things that I want in order to keep my family’s budget on track and even more – not being able to do something that I personally want because the money is not there. With the tips and tricks I share in the book that I’ve used for over 10 years, I’ve been able to still get or do extra things and stay within a budget – getting more using less.
4) Can you share one little tip from your new ebook that we can all implement right away?
Use coupons and discount codes for everything you purchase – period. The small amount of time that it takes to find those will result in big savings. Remember, coupons are not only in-store, but online. Learn to double and triple dip!
5) I find living frugally has quite a few benefits aside from saving money. What’s been the biggest “side-effect” for you in this change toward living more frugally?
It has been good to know that I don’t have to have “all the stuff” that a lot of people have in order to survive! Our home has only one flat screen TV – one we purchased only because we needed to add a TV for a treadmill, when we chose to end our gym membership and workout at home (which saved a ton of money!) We have purposely chosen to not replace our TV’s with newer versions until they just don’t work anymore! Needless to say our kids are not quite as happy about the decision – our main family TV is racking up 14 years now, weighs nearly 100 lbs and is a bit large, but hey, it works!
6) Tell us a little more about your Frugalista ebook and where we can grab a copy.
If you’re heading out this weekend for St. Patrick’s Day, be sure to put on something green to avoid getting pinched. Thankfully this year St. Patrick’s Day falls on a Sunday, meaning that you don’t have to worry about green clothes for the kids to wear to school if you don’t want to. But for those of us heading to St. Patrick’s Day Parades and festivals, wearing at least something green is a must.
When there’s no obvious choice, use some or all of the frugal suggestions below before heading to the department store for a new green outfit.
Dig Through The Closets and Get Creative
Start with what you already have in the house and get creative. Just because your son doesn’t have a green shirt, doesn’t mean you have to go out and buy him one. Instead, put that green t-shirt you own that’s gotten a little tight and let him ware it over a long-sleeve T. Or add a belt and turn it into a dress for your little girl.
Use a small scarf as a headband, let the kids wear oversized sweatshirts etc. You get the idea. Just be creative and don’t stop at the closets. Look around the house for anything green and see if you can turn it into something wearable.
Hit The Thrift Stores
My next stop is usually one of the local Thrift stores. Several of them are kind enough to sort their shirts and blouses by color making it easy to shop for something green. You may even get lucky and find a St. Patrick’s Day shirt complete with four-leaf clover that someone else discarded after last year’s festivities.
The last option is to check in with close family and friends and see if you can borrow a green t-shirt, hat or scarf. This is usually my last resort because without fail something happens to the borrowed garment. But in a pinch, this is definitely an option, especially when the closing isn’t something the person you’re borrowing from would miss terribly if it got lost or damaged.
St. Patrick’s Day gives us all an excuse to have some fun and eat delicious comfort foods.
Just thinking about corned beef, cabbage & soda bread give me goose bumps. Those classic Irish dishes are among some of my favorite but it’s fun when you can find new recipes that make your tummy happy.
Since St. Patrick’s Day is just around the corner I thought it would be nice to put together some recipes and crafts and create a kindle ebook to celebrate.
You’ll find delicious Irish food along with a bunch of crafts that your family will enjoy creating together.
And remember, with all Kindle ebooks, you don’t need a Kindle to download them. Amazon makes it easy to put right on your computer, laptop, or other e-reader or device. And the price is right, too!
A close friend of mine shared a great frugal shopping strategy with me. Anytime you go to the store, do your shopping and right before you head to the cash register, find at least one or two items you don’t absolutely need and put them back. This works particularly well when you don’t shop with a list, but works even when head to the store to buy only what you need.
I almost always shop with a list, but despite my best intentions, some items that weren’t on my list find their way into the shopping cart. Most of the time it’s pretty easy to put something back.
Today was a challenge though. I ran to the Dollar General to get ingredients for my dump cake. On my list I had:
- Cherry Pie Filling
- Crushed Pinapple
- Yellow Cake Mix
- Chopped Nuts
I didn’t need anything else, and was able to grab everything I needed in one aisle. I ended up putting the chopped nuts back and saving almost $4. The cake tasted just as good without.
Give it a try the next time you go grocery shopping, stop for some snacks at the convenience store or even go cloth shopping. You won’t even miss the items you put back and save a little bit each time you shop.
I came across the following ideas in an old HBHW newsletter edition. My friend Tawra from Living On A Dime shared some cute last minute Valentine’s Day ideas that are fun and inexpensive. Do something fun for the kids and your spouse today. Happy Valentine’s Day!
Valentine’s Day On A Dime
by Tawra Kellam
Using a little imagination, you can make your Valentine’s day a little more fun and a lot less expensive. If you want to add a little personalized romance or if you don’t have the time or money to buy all the pre-made things in the store, here are some ideas from LivingOnADime.com to help you make the day special.
For the Kids:
My mom always made a great but inexpensive Valentine’s Day treat for us. She would take construction paper and cut a big heart out of it. (About 8×10 inches) then she would staple the edges together and write our names and an I love you on the outside. Then she would fill the heart with candy, purchased on clearance after Christmas. It was very inexpensive but we loved it!
Do a Valentine’s treasure hunt. Leave little notes around with the last one leading back to the kitchen table with heart full of candy.
For Lunches: Make heart shaped Valentine’s cookies, cut the kids (or hubby’s) sandwiches with a heart shaped cookie cutter to make a heart sandwich. Add a few Valentine’s chocolates and put a note in red with a big heart on their napkin.
Serve anything red for the day. Serve red Jell-o, red pudding, red apples, toast with strawberry jelly, tomato soup, red applesauce, red Kool-aid, strawberry milk, or red frosted cookies. Use powered food coloring from the cake store to get the deepest shade of red. Leave sticks of red gum in their Valentine’s Day cards.
Make red heart shaped cupcakes. Make cupcakes as usual but place a marble down the side of the muffin tin between the muffin tin and each cupcake cup. This will make heart shaped cupcakes.
Make hearts out of chocolate chips in each of your pancakes.
Mail your pre-addressed and stamped Valentines to Loveland, Colorado and they will postmark them and mail them for you. Send them to: Postmaster, Attn: Valentines, Loveland, CO 80537
Make a treasure hunt for your spouse. Start by mailing or e-mailing him the first clue. Then leave clues all over the house, yard, car or his office telling him where to find the next clue. End the hunt by making a picnic in the back yard or going to a park for a picnic. Use your imagination and have fun. The simple things are the ones people remember.
Things to do with or for your honey:
Go to a bookstore and enjoy the silence and browse. Get a cup of coffee and make a date of it.
Celebrate Valentine’s day AFTER Valentine’s day. Everything is half off.
Mail a love letter to your hubby’s work.
Send your spouse a sexy email message.
Leave “Why I love you” message all over the house. Buy a package of the cheap Valentines. Leave a message on each one and hide them all over the house for your honey. They will get to enjoy the gift for months!
Use lipstick to make hearts and love notes on the rear view mirror, car windows, bathroom mirror or windows of the house. Leave a kiss on his napkin for lunch or dinner.
Make a bunch of hearts out of construction paper. Put a love note on each one. Paste them all over the front door or car before your hubby or kids come home from work.
If you don’t have money to go out, have a picnic on the floor. Use some candles and lay a soft blanket on the floor. Put on some soft music and have a romantic Valentine’s dinner on the floor. Use some white Christmas lights for additional romantic lighting.
Tawra Kellam is the editor of LivingonaDime.com
Tawra and her husband paid off $20,000 debt in 5 years on $22,000 a year income.
I haven’t been feeling too great the past few weeks and am still recovering from the Flu. One thing I noticed is that we ended up getting a lot more convenience foods and take-out. I just didn’t have the energy to face a sink full of dirty dishes and tried hard not to do too much cooking to avoid getting the rest of my family sick.
While canned soup and pizza deliveries work fine for the short term in a case like this, it can seriously hurt your budget in the long run. I was reminded of this by the following article that my friend Jill from LivingOnADime.com emailed me a few days ago.
Dirty Dishes Cause Debt!
by Jill Cooper
The other day I was asked one of the most common questions that people ask me: “Where do I start if I want to get out of debt?” After telling me of her huge credit card debt and how they eat out almost every night, the lady took a deep breath and said, “How do I save on laundry detergent and cleaning supplies?” Sometimes we can’t see the forest for the trees.
Even though saving money on cleaning supplies does help and should be part of your plan, that usually isn’t where the biggest problem with the debt lies. This woman never once thought to ask me how to stop eating out so much. Most people don’t want to face the real causes of their debt because their biggest problems are the things they like the most. Going out to eat is one of the top five causes of debt.
Get those dirty dishes out of the sink!!
We go out to eat because we can’t face a dirty kitchen. Keeping your kitchen empty of dirty dishes is the key to saving money. This is probably the #1 way to start getting out of debt. Most people are so overwhelmed with piled counter tops and dirty dishes that they would rather go out to eat than face a dirty kitchen.
Do the dishes after every meal and keep hot soapy water in the sink while you are baking or cooking. Clean as you go. If your sink is empty and the dishes are washed, your kitchen always looks good. This helps you save money because you have the time and space to cook.
To get in and out of the kitchen quickly, try these easy steps:
- Put all dirty dishes in the dishwasher. Fill the sink with hot soapy water and put the hand washables in it to soak.
- Wipe off counter tops and tables with hot soapy water. (This way, if you have unexpected company, at least your table and counters will be clean.)
- Sweep the floor and shake throw rugs if needed.
- Wash the dishes that have been soaking.
- Wipe down the faucets and dry with a towel. (Be sure to wipe any sticky appliances, too.)
- Put out a clean dish rag and towel.
- Take out the trash.
These simple steps can help you start climbing your way out of debt. You will be amazed how much better you will feel just having the kitchen clean.
Jill Cooper and Tawra Kellam are frugal living experts and the authors of the Dining On A Dime Cookbook. Dining On A Dime will help you save money on groceries and get out of debt, by cooking quick and simple homemade meals. For free tips & recipes visit www.hillbillyhousewife.com/load
I’m doing much better and am ready to tackle that sink full of dishes just as soon as I finish my coffee. I know it will feel great to have a clean kitchen and dishes put away. It always motivates me to plan my meals for the week and put on a pot of homemade soup.
I Highly Recommend The Entire Living On A Dime Series For Frugal Living
There are a lot of ways to get the most out of a chicken. I like to roast a whole chicken for dinner, then make homemade chicken broth out of the carcass, skin, bones, and drippings. All the lovely flavors are there for the stock, and you have a whole chicken to feed the family. In this way, nothing is wasted.
My friend Patti Winker of RemarkableWrinklies.com has another method she likes which produces not only a small chicken meal and the makings for stock, but also solid chicken fat, known as schmaltz. If you like the flavor chicken fat (schmaltz) provides in frying, this method may be perfect for you. One other benefit to this sort of method is how cheap it is. Take a look at the instructions and pictures Patti has provided us and see if this method appeals to you. And, be sure to leave your comments below to share your ideas.
Hi Susanne. Thank you for letting me share my ‘recipe’ here.
This little cooking experiment started when I ran to the store to get chicken thighs for dinner. I usually buy chicken thighs because I prefer the flavor and because they are cheaper than chicken breasts. Right next to the thighs in the meat department I saw packages of ‘necks and backs’ at such a low price it was like they were giving them away. I know the backs of a chicken are quite fatty so I knew they would make a nice stock. So, I bought the thighs for dinner and a package of the ‘necks and backs’ for the stock.
Before I put the thighs and backs on the baking sheet, I seasoned everything, including the backs, with salt, pepper and sage. Then I roasted them at 350 degrees for about 45 minutes, until the thighs were totally cooked through and the skin was crispy.
What I noticed was the incredible amount of chicken fat that cooked off. I knew the backs would be fatty and full of flavor for the broth, but it only occurred to me when I saw the inch of fat in the baking sheet that I would have enough fat to save for schmaltz. (You might want to put the chicken thighs on a rack inside the baking sheet to keep them up out of the fat since you’re going to eat those.)
When the chicken was cooked, I removed the thighs to a paper towel covered rack to drain and set aside for dinner.
Now it’s time to get the stock started.
I dumped the backs and all the fat from the baking sheet into a large pot, added onion, celery, and peppercorns to the pot, then filled it with water and brought it to a boil. As soon as the pot came to a boil, I turned the heat down and slowly simmered it for a couple hours, stirring often.
Of course, the stock was very fatty because I dumped all the fat from the baking pan into the pot. This provides a lot of flavor to the stock, but the fat is going to be skimmed off from the stock and saved for the schmaltz. You can keep as much or as little fat in the stock as you want simply by skimming off more or less fat.
After the stock has simmered at least an hour or two, remove it from the stove, let it cool slightly, and pour through a strainer into a bowl or another large pot. (Discard all the strained out bones, etc.) Put the strained stock into the freezer and allow to cool (uncovered) overnight. The next day you will have a solid layer of fat on the top of the stock in the freezer.
Now you can prepare your schmaltz.
Remove the pot of chicken stock from the freezer. Carefully scrape/peel the solid fat off the top of the stock and put it in a saucepan over medium heat. Bring to a gentle boil, stirring, and when the fat is liquid again, pour it through a fine mesh strainer or sieve into a clean bowl. Line a baking pan with parchment paper and pour the strained chicken fat into the baking pan. Put the baking pan into the freezer and allow to freeze solid, usually overnight.
Now back to the stock.
You can bring the stock that remains in the pot back up to a boil so you can strain it once more if you wish. Once your stock is as you like it, pour into freezer or refrigerator containers and store accordingly.
Time to cut up the schmaltz.
The next day, remove the baking pan from the freezer, lift the schmaltz out using the parchment paper. Lay it on a cutting board and cut into squares with a sharp knife to make it easy to use. Work quickly because the schmaltz melts fast. Put the squares in freezer containers and keep frozen. Use these schmaltz squares just like you would butter or oil to fry eggs or other foods. I’ve used it for stir-fry meals or even just to add a bit of flavor to rice, noodles, potatoes, or soups. Some folks use schmaltz as a spread on bread or bagels.
The frugal results.
In this one cooking experiment I ended up with a chicken dinner for two with leftovers, 4 quarts of stock, and a large freezer bag filled with schmaltz. This figures out to about six meals and a seemingly endless supply of chicken fat for frying and flavoring. Not a bad return on an investment of a few dollars! I hope you’ll give it a try and let us know how it worked for you and share any suggestions you have.
p.s. My husband and I are NOT on fat restrictive diets and we enjoy eating and cooking with animal fats and proteins. This type of cooking and eating is not for everyone, but if you eat like we do, close to what is known as a ‘Paleo’ diet, you might like to try this.
Note from Susanne: In the comments section, there have been a few questions about keeping the chicken stock from getting cloudy. It seems we can agree that making sure the stock simmers slowly helps keep the stock clearer and cleaner by preventing the carcass from breaking up during a harder boil. Patti Winker posted a video on YouTube to illustrate a ‘slow rolling boil’ which she suggests is the proper ‘speed’ for producing a good stock. I thought I’d share the video here so you could take a look. Be sure to leave your comments after you view the video. And while we’re talking about old fashioned cooking, be sure to check out Patti’s fun ecookbook at MemoryLaneMeals.com. Thank you.
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